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Note to the Reader xv <p>Acknowledgments xvi</p> <p>Introduction: From June Cleaver to Desperate Housewives—How Did We Get Ourselves into This Mess? xix</p> <p>The <i>Parents</i> Magazine "Joys of Motherhood Survey": What Mothers Really Feel and Their Advice to Help Us Raise the Next Generation xxxvii</p> <p><b>101 Tough Problems Parents Face and How to Deal with Them</b></p> <p><b>Part 1 Family 1</b></p> <p>Adopted 2</p> <p>Divorce 8</p> <p>Middle Child 19</p> <p>New Baby 21</p> <p>Oldest Child 23</p> <p>Only Child 26</p> <p>Sibling Rivalry 29</p> <p>Twins and Multiples 37</p> <p>Youngest Child 41</p> <p><b>Part 2 Behavior 45</b></p> <p>Argues 46</p> <p>Back Talk 54</p> <p>Biting 60</p> <p>Bossy 64</p> <p>Brags 71</p> <p>Defiant 76</p> <p>Demanding 86</p> <p>Hooked on Rewards 88</p> <p>Impulsive 93</p> <p>Indecisive 100</p> <p>Swears 102</p> <p>Tantrums 109</p> <p>Time-Out 118</p> <p>Whining 121</p> <p>Won’t Listen 128</p> <p>Yelling 134</p> <p><b>Part 3 Character 139</b></p> <p>Bad Manners 140</p> <p>Cheats 150</p> <p>Insensitive 159</p> <p>Intolerant 168</p> <p>Lying 173</p> <p>Materialistic 182</p> <p>Not Knowing Right from Wrong 191</p> <p>Poor Sport 201</p> <p>Selfish and Spoiled 209</p> <p>Steals 218</p> <p>Ungrateful 224</p> <p><b>Part 4 Emotions 231</b></p> <p>Angry 232</p> <p>Dependent 240</p> <p>Fearful 248</p> <p>Grief 255</p> <p>Homesick 264</p> <p>Perfectionist 272</p> <p>Pessimistic 279</p> <p>Sensitive 284</p> <p>Shy 291</p> <p>Separation Anxiety 301</p> <p>Stressed 303</p> <p>Worried About the World 310</p> <p><b>Part 5 Social Scene 313</b></p> <p>Bad Friends 314</p> <p>Bullied 323</p> <p>Bullying 332</p> <p>Cliques 342</p> <p>Clothes and Appearance 350</p> <p>Crushes 353</p> <p>Disciplining Other Kids 355</p> <p>Drinking 359</p> <p>Friendship Breakups 363</p> <p>Growing Up Too Fast 367</p> <p>Peer Pressure 373</p> <p>Rejected 381</p> <p>Role Models 391</p> <p>Sex 394</p> <p>Sharing 399</p> <p>Steroids 407</p> <p>Tattles 410</p> <p>Teased 415</p> <p><b>Part 6 School 423</b></p> <p>Day Care 424</p> <p>Gives Up 426</p> <p>Homework 435</p> <p>Leadership 443</p> <p>Organized Sports 447</p> <p>Procrastinates 448</p> <p>Reading 453</p> <p>Sick Enough to Stay Home 456</p> <p>Teacher Conference 458</p> <p>Test Anxiety 460</p> <p><b>Part 7 Special Needs 465</b></p> <p>Attention Deficit 466</p> <p>Autism Spectrum Disorder 477</p> <p>Depressed 488</p> <p>Eating Disorders 498</p> <p>Gifted 508</p> <p>Learning Disabilities 516</p> <p>Overweight 520</p> <p><b>Part 8 Day to Day 531</b></p> <p>Bathroom Battles 532</p> <p>Boredom 534</p> <p>Chores 538</p> <p>Communicating 545</p> <p>Disorganized 549</p> <p>Money 551</p> <p>Moving 559</p> <p>Overscheduled 568</p> <p>Pets 570</p> <p>Picky Eater 572</p> <p>Safety 578</p> <p>Sleepless 585</p> <p>Traveling 594</p> <p><b>Part 9 Electronics 597</b></p> <p>Cell Phone 598</p> <p>Cyberbullying 602</p> <p>Internet Safety 610</p> <p>TV Addiction 618</p> <p>Video Games 621</p> <p>Notes 627</p> <p>About the Author 671</p> <p>Index 673</p>

Borba, author and <i>Today Show</i> regular, employs a cookbooklike approach in her latest volume: rather than read through the entire tome, parents can flip to topics pertinent to their family. Borba opens with a friendly overview, noting that contemporary parents feel more stressed and find their roles increasingly difficult (June Cleaver, she points out, didn't have to deal with cyberbullying or Facebook). With characteristic wit, Borba identifies the ?seven deadly parenting styles,? including helicopter, buddy, incubator, bandage, paranoid, accessory parenting (judging themselves by their kids' accolades) and secondary parenting (relinquishing power to such outsiders as marketers or the media). In nine sections on family, behavior, character, emotions, social scene, school, special needs, day-to-day and electronics, the author urges readers to roll up their sleeves and get back to basic, instinctual parenting. As she tackles 101 issues ranging from sibling rivalry, lying and peer pressure to cell-phone use and TV addiction, Borba helps readers identify the reason underlying the behavior or problem, and work with 10 essential principles of change. With her no-nonsense yet compassionate voice, Borba once again delivers an indispensable resource for parents of toddlers to 13-year-olds. <i>(Sept.)</i> (<i>Publishers Weekly</i>, July 20, 2009) <p>A Recommended Read for Moms by <i>Working Mother</i> magazine: "Educational psychologist and <i>Today</i> show parenting expert Dr. Michele Borba has compiled 101 answers to your most perplexing kid conundrums, from early childhood challenges like thumbsucking and tantrums to later behaviors like bullying and drug use to universals like adoption and divorce. The easy-to-use problem/solution format will have you battling your biggest parenting crises with confidence." (October 2009)</p>

<b>Michele Borba</b>, Ed.D.—Today show contributor and recipient of the National Educator Award—is recognized for her practical, solution-based strategies. Michele is the author of 22 books including <i>Building Moral Intelligence</i> and <i>No More Misbehavin'</i>. She appears on <i>Dr. Phil</i>, <i>The View</i>, and CNN and is an advisory board member for <i>Parents</i> magazine. Visit her at MicheleBorba.com or her blog, "Parenting Solutions," at micheleborba.ivillage.com.

<b>Parenting for Real and Lasting Change</b> <p>"Moms and dads have come to rely on Dr. Borba for advice on issues large and small. <i>The Big Book of Parenting Solutions</i> is an indispensable, comprehensive, and authoritative guide to the wonderful and sometimes wacky world of parenthood. You'll find yourself dipping into it for answers again and again."<br /> —<b>Dana Points</b>, Editor-in-Chief, <i>Parents Magazine</i></p> <p>Trusted parenting expert Michele Borba offers her practical and proven advice for meeting the most common parenting challenges for kids from 3 to 13. These time-tested strategies have been featured in her Today show appearances and presented to over a million parents and teachers in her popular workshops. Michele skips the quick-fix approach and offers effective solutions that help you make lasting change in your child's attitude, behavior, and character.</p> <p>With <i>The Big Book of Parenting Solutions</i> as your guide, you can take on frustrating child-rearing issues such as bedtime battles, chores wars, overscheduling, tantrums, bad friends, sibling rivalry, back talk, selfishness, and anger, to more pressing concerns like cyberbullying, steroids, cheating, growing up too fast, eating disorders, worrying about the world, Internet safety, stress, and much more. The book's 101 issues include specific step-by-step solutions and advice that is age appropriate.</p> <p>Borba's groundbreaking method shows how to replace your child's troublesome behavior with positive new habits. The result: a better-behaved kid who is respectful, responsible, and prepared to handle life for the long haul.</p>

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